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under this solemn obligation to speak truth, sins against all the motives, which can be conceived to influence him to the performance of his duty.

The Causes of Lying, the second thing proposed in this scheme of this Discourse, are, generally, all the Temptations, which men feel to this unhappy practice. Men utter falsehood, extensively, for the acquisition of wealth, honour, power, and pleasure; to ad vance the purposes of party; to ensure success in a controversy; to gain a favourite point; to mortify a rival, or an enemy; and for innumerable other purposes. In the discourse, which I delivered on the subject of Frauds, practised on our fellow-men, numerous specimens of this nature were either alluded to, or expressly ment tioned. Similar specimens, perhaps equally numerous, are attend ant upon the eager pursuit of all those worldly gratifications, which men ardently covet. I know of no case, in which Lying more abounds, than that of vehement party contention. Universally, men, embarked in unworthy designs, as I shall have occasion to mention more particularly hereafter, find falsehood exceedingly convenient, if not indispensable to their success. Depraved as mankind are, a bad cause cannot be carried on with success, without the aid either of falsehood, or the sword.

All these are immediate Causes of Lying. Those, to which I have originally referred, are more remote. They are such, as subvert the original tendency to speak Truth, which we regularly find in the earliest ages of life. The influence of these causes is peculiarly exerted upon the minds of such as are young; and they are led into habits of Lying, before they are capable of understanding either their guilt, or their danger. These causes are principally the following.

1. Children are often taught to lie by Example.

Few persons of adult years are, perhaps, sufficiently sensible how soon children begin to understand the nature of those things, which they see, and hear; especially the nature of human cons duct. From this, as well as from other causes, it frequently hap pens, that many things are done, and said, before very young chil dren, which would not be said, or done, if it were well understood, that the children would clearly comprehend, and regularly copy, them. By this misapprehension the members of many a family, and unhappily the parents also, are often induced to make their children witnesses of palpable falsehoods, when, bad as themselves are, they would not corrupt their children in this manner, were they aware, that their conduct would thus become the means of corruption. Often, these falsehoods are uttered in earn est: often, they are uttered in jest. In both cases their influence is alike pernicious.

The power of all example is great; especially of evil example; but, perhaps, in no case greater than in that of falsehood. Here, the falsehood is brought home to the child with an influence whol

ly peculiar. It is uttered by those, whom he loves; by those whom he venerates; by those of whom he has never formed a disadvantageous suspicion. It is calmly and coolly told to others in his presence, without a doubt, expressed, of its rectitude; and is, at times, accompanied by a direct explanation of the advantages, which are hoped from it. At other times, it is uttered in the zeal of dispute, and the warmth of passion. At other times, a multitude of falsehoods are combined together in a marvellous story, and, in many families, such stories form no small part of the domestic conversation. At other times still, and instances innumerable, the private history of persons, and families in the neighbourhood, furnishes an almost endless tissue of interwoven truth and falsehood; and constitutes the chief entertainment of the house. Families, composed of sprightly members, make, also, innumerable assertions in jest, which are untrue; which the child, who hears them, perceives to be untrue; and for the falsehood of which he does not perceive the sport to yield any justification.

All these, even very young children will usually discern to be falsehoods. No person can wonder, that they should be induced to adopt this conduct, when he remembers, that it is set before them, continually, in so many modes, by those who are so much the objects of affection and reverence. That children derive this turpitude in very many instances, originally, and chiefly, from such an example, they themselves abundantly prove. The reason, which they almost always give, and first give, for the commission of this crime, is, that others have done the same thing.

In multiplied instances, falsehoods are directly told to children, particularly very young children, to persuade them to acquiesce cheerfully, in things which are disagreeable. Children, like older persons, have many wishes, the gratification of which is, in their view, impor tant to their happiness; but which others know to be fraught with danger and mischief. To persuade them quietly to give up such gratifications, Parents, and others, frequently adopt the easy and convenient method of deceiving them. Thus parents, who wish to go abroad, and to persuade their young children to remain at home, often declare, that they are going out, to return immediately while the children clearly discern, that the declaration is false. When parents, also, or others, are abroad, whose absence is very painful to children; servants, and others to quiet them, declare, often, that the parents are returning; are in sight; or will return within a very short time. To persuade them to take medicines, the children are assured, that they are sweet and pleasant; when, in truth, they are bitter and loathsome. To conceal from them designs also, and facts, which it is undesirable that they should know, many artful and insidious declarations are made to them; which, together with all those mentioned above, the children, in spite of the address, employed to prevent it, discern to be false.

Thus, to quiet them for a moment, they are often taught to become liars through life.

In a similar manner, children are deceived, and corrupted, by false promises. They are sick; are reluctant to take medicines, are peevish, and fretful; are wished by their parents to make little efforts to display their talents, and accomplishments, for the entertainment of visiters, and the gratification also of parental pride. To overcome their reluctance to these efforts, sooth their sufferings, and to quiet their fretfulness, they are promised money; new clothes; the possession of toys, and privileges; and, particularly, the privilege of going abroad. But the performance of such promises will usually occasion either trouble or expense. Very often, therefore, they are not performed. In this work of falsehood, parents, brethren, sisters, friends, and servants, frequently all unite; and the unfortunate children, who perfectly comprehend the deceit, find sometimes the whole, and sometimes a part, of the family thus combined for their destruction.

Equally unhappy are they in the examples which they find abroad. Children, thus corrupted, carry the miserable contagion to school. All their companions, who have been educated with happier care, and under better examples, are here exposed to the disease; and in many instances become infected and leprous through life.

At the same time, Children are often permitted to frequent places, to which vile and unprincipled persons resort; and there become witnesses of all their abominable sentiments, and conduct. Here, Lies are not only told, but are made the subjects of jest and diversion. Successful falsehoods, and impositions, are not only repeated, but repeated with explanations, merriment, and triumph; and exhibited as proofs of superior address, and honourable ingenuity. What child can fail of corruption in such haunts of sin, and amid such examples of villany?

2. Children are taught to lie by Influence.

In very early life, children discover a strong tendency to talk abundantly, to repeat marvellous stories; to rehearse private history; and to recount the little occurrences of the neighbourhood. In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin. Every tendency to loquacity ought, therefore, to be vigorously repressed. The disposition to recite marvellous stories, to give characters, and to recount private history, and the occurrences of the neighbourhood, increases by every indulgence; and soon becomes both habitual and enormous.

Instead of checking these propensities, however, no small num-ber of parents, unaware of the danger, and forgetful of their duty. directly listen, and inquire; and in many instances repeat wha has been said in this manner by their children. In this conduct, the children perceive that they derive consequence, in the parental eye, from the fact, that they utter things of this nature; and are efficaciously taught, that what they have said, instead of being

criminal, odious, and disgraceful, is right, and pleasing. They are naturally, and powerfully, led, therefore, to increase, instead of slackening, their efforts; and to multiply their tales of these unfortunate kinds. From repeating, they go on to exaggerating; from rehearsing, to inventing; and from inventing such parts, as the memory does not supply, to inventing the whole. In this manner, they become, after no great length of time, absolute liars.

In multitudes of instances, also, children, to gain favourite objects, and interesting compliances, from their companions, are induced to make promises, of various kinds. These, afterwards, they are often disinclined to fulfil. The parent, whose duty it is to compel the performance, finding the child reluctant, because it involves some sacrifice of his playthings, his property, or his convenience, neglects this duty, and suffers the promise to go unfulfilled. In this manner, he gives his own sanction to a direct breach of faith, infinitely more mischievous to the child, than the loss of all the gratifications which he ever possessed. Nay, in some instances, the child is even encouraged, and, in some, directly commanded, not to fulfil his promise; because, perhaps, the fulfilment will be very painful to the child, or in some degree inconvenient to the parent. In all such cases as I have mentioned, nothing can be expected, but that the child should grow up without truth, and, of course, without any moral principle.

3. Children are often driven to falsehood by Passion.

There are parents, whose whole life is an almost continual scene of passion. There are others, who often break out into paroxysms of rage. Among these, the number is not small of those, who exercise this furious spirit towards their children; not unfrequently because their faults, whether real or supposed, disturb their own quiet, and make, or seem to make, it necessary for them to undertake, what they equally hate and dread, the task of parental discipline. The unhappy children are, in such cases, commonly assailed with the looks, and language, of a Fury, instead of those of a Christian parent. Terrified at this storm of wrath and rage, the children are, in a sense, compelled, under the influence of the severest threatenings, to lie, in order to conceal their faults, and escape the dreaded infliction. Passion, manifested towards children, whatever may have been their transgressions, is madness; shameful to the parent, and ruinous to the child. The parent, who exercises it, can expect nothing, but that his child should become a liar.

4. Children are often forced to lie by Punishment.

Parents, in many instances, feel satisfied, that they have done their duty, when they have corrected their children for this crime." Accordingly, as often as the children repeat the crime, they repeat the punishment. Hardly any mistake, with respect to the government of children, can be more unhappy than this. So far as my

own experience may be relied on, the same punishment can never be safely repeated, in any great number of instances, for the same fault. Usually, when administered once, if administered wisely, it will produce its whole efficacy on the child. All the supernumerary inflictions appear, ordinarily, to terminate in hardening the child; and, so far as my observation extends, in no case more effectually, than in that of lying. Perhaps, the rod is oftener used for the purpose of extirpating this fault than any other; and in no case, I suspect, with smaller success. The propriety and usefulness of correction, at early periods of childhood, are sanctioned by abundant experience, and by God Himself. But reiterated correction, I mean often reiterated, has, I believe, rarely cured a child of falsehood; while it has confirmed multitudes in this sin beyond every rational hope of reformation.

The consciousness of having been often corrected, produces, of course, in the mind of every child, who is the subject of this discipline, an habitual sense of degradation. A sense of degradation is more nearly allied, than mankind are usually aware, to hardness of heart. When punishment fails of producing repentance, it is commonly followed by indifference to the crime; often, by a determination to repeat it; and usually, by feelings of revenge towards the author of the infliction. A child has told a lie. The parent has been provoked by it. The child has been corrected;. but has not become a penitent. On the contrary, he feels, that he has been injured; and, instead of regarding the lie as a crime, considers it only as an unfortunate cause of his own suffering. The turpitude of the act is therefore forgotten, and lost, in the sense of suffering. To retribute the abuse will naturally seem, in this case, a gratification, of no contemptible importance. A new crime is therefore committed, as soon as his own safety will permit. He is accused of it; and a new lie is told, to shield him from another correction. In this manner, he will soon begin to believe, that both his lies, and his other crimes, are merely a balance for a given measure of punishment; and will calculate how many blows it will be prudent to hazard for the pleasure of committing a fault, and the convenience of telling a lie. The parent, who governs his child in this manner, takes, in my opinion, well-directed measures to make him a villain.

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