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their old age from indigence; and, to this end, you should endeavour to inspire them with care to lay up part of their gains, and constantly dis courage in them all vanity in dress, and extravagance in idle expenses.

That you are bound to promote their eternal as well as temporal welfare, you cannot doubt; since, next to your children, they are your nearest dependants. You ought, therefore, to instruct them as far as you are able, furnish them with good books, suited to their capacity, and see that they attend the public worship of God: and you must take care so to pass the Sabbath-day, as to allow them time, on that day at least, for reading and reflection at home, as well as for attendance at church. Though this is part of your religious duty, I mention it here, because it is also a part of family management: For the same reason, I shall here take occasion earnestly to recommend family prayers, which are useful to all, but more particularly to servants; who, being constantly employed, are led to the neglect of private prayer; and whose ignorance makes it very difficult for them to frame devotions for themselves, or to choose proper helps, amidst the numerous books of superstitious or enthusiastic nonsense, which are printed for that purpose. Even in a political light, this practice is eligible; since the idea which it will give them of your regularity and decency, if not counteracted by other parts of your conduct, will probably increase their respect for you, and will be some restraint at least on their outward behaviour, though it should fail of that influence which in general may be hoped from it.

The prudent distribution of your charitable gifts may not improperly be considered as a branch of

economy; since the great duty of almsgiving cannot be truly fulfilled, without a diligent at tention so to manage the sums you can spare, as to produce the most real good to your fellowcreatures. Many are willing to give money, who will not bestow their time and consideration, and who, therefore, often hurt the community, when they mean to do good to individuals. The larger are your funds, the stronger is the call upon you to exert your industry and care in disposing of them properly. It seems impossible to give rules for this, as every case is attended with a variety of circumstances, which must all be considered. In general, charity is most useful, when it is appropriated to animate the industry of the young, to procure some ease and comforts to old age, and to support, in sickness, those whose daily labour is their only maintenance in health. They who are fallen into indigence, from circumstances of ease and plenty, and in whom education and habit have added a thousand wants to those of nature, must be considered with the tenderest sympathy by every feeling heart. It is needless to say, that to such the bare support of existence is scarcely a benefit; and that the delicacy and liberality of the manner in which relief is here offered, can alone make it a real act of kindness.-In great families, the waste of provisions sufficient for the support of many poor ones, is a shocking abuse of the gifts of Providence; nor should any lady think it beneath her to study the best means of preventing it, and of employing the refuse of luxury in the relief of the poor. Even the smallest families may give some assistance in this way, if care is taken that nothing be wasted.

I am sensible, my dear child, that very little more can be gathered from what I have said on

economy, than the general importance of it; which cannot be too much impressed on your mind, since the natural turn of young people is to neglect, and even to despise it; not distinguishing it from parsimony and narrowness of spirit: but be assured, my dear, there can be no true generosity without it; and that the most enlarged and liberal mind. will find itself not debased, but ennobled by it. Nothing is more common than to see the same person, whose want of economy is ruining his family, consumed with regret and vexation at the effect of his profusion; and, by endeavouring to save in such trifles as will not amount to twenty pounds in a year, that which he wastes by hundreds, incur the character and suffer the anxieties of a miser, together with the misfortunes of a prodigal. A rational plan of expense will save you from all these corroding cares, and will give you the full and liberal enjoyment of what you spend. An air of ease, of hospitality, and frankness, will reign in your house, which will make it pleasant to your friends and to yourself. Better is a morsel of "bread," where this is found, than the most elaborate entertainment, with that air of constraint and anxiety, which often betrays the grudging heart through all the disguises of civility.

That you, my dear, may unite in yourself the admirable virtues of generosity and economy, which will be the grace and crown of all your attainments, is the earnest wish of your ever affectionate.

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LETTER VIII.

ON POLITENESS AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS.

WHILST you labour to enrich your mind with the essential virtues of Christianity,-with piety, benevolence, meekness, humility, integrity, and purity, -and to make yourself useful in domestic management, I would not have my dear child neglect to pursue those graces and acquirements, which may set her virtue in the most advantageous light, adorn her manners, and enlarge her understanding: and this, not in the spirit of vanity, but in the innocent and laudable view of rendering herself more useful and pleasing to her fellow-creatures, and, conse quently, more acceptable to God. Politeness of behaviour, and the attainment of such branches of knowledge, and such arts and accomplishments, as are proper to your sex, capacity, and station, will prove so valuable to yourself through life, and will make you so desirable a companion, that the neglect of them may reasonably be deemed a neglect of duty; since it is undoubtedly our duty to cultivate the powers intrusted to us, and to render ourselves as perfect as we can.

You must have often observed, that nothing is so strong a recommendation, on a slight acquaintance, as politeness; nor does it lose its value by time or intimacy, when preserved, as it ought to be, in the nearest connexions and strictest friendships. This delightful qualification,-so universally admired and respected, but so rarely possessed in any eminent degree,-cannot but be a considerable object of my wishes for you: nor should

either of us be discouraged by the apprehension, that neither I am capable of teaching, nor you of learning it, in perfection, since whatever degree you attain will amply reward our pains.

To be perfectly polite, one must have great presence of mind, with a delicate and quick sense of propriety; or, in other words, one should be able to form an instantaneous judgment of what is fittest to be said or done, on every occasion as it offers. I have known one or two persons, who seemed to owe this advantage to nature only, and to have the peculiar happiness of being born, as it were, with another sense, by which they had an immediate perception of what was proper and improper, in cases absolutely new to them: but this is the lot of very few.

In general, propriety of behaviour must be the fruit of instruction, of observation, and reasoning; and it is to be cultivated and improved like any other branch of knowledge or virtue. A good temper is a necessary groundwork of it; and if to this be added a good understanding, applied industriously to this purpose, I think it can hardly fail of attaining all that is essential in it. Particular modes and ceremonies of behaviour vary in different countries, and even in different parts of the same town. These can only be learned by observation on the manners of those who are best skilled in them, and by keeping what is called good company. But the principles of politeness are the same in all places. Wherever there are human beings, it must be impolite to hurt the temper, or to shock the passions, of those you converse with. It must every-where be goodbreeding, to set your companions in the most advantageous point of light, by giving each the opportunity of displaying their most agreeable talents, and by carefully avoiding all occasions of exposing

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